3rd June 1961…

3rd June is an important date as that was the date that Mom, Florence Yip was born. Therefore tomorrow would have been her 60th Birthday. Usually, I would send her flowers, get her a gift and treat her to a nice meal with cake of course. This is the first year that we haven’t been able to celebrate her Big Day. It’s been almost 6 months since she left us and not a day goes by without us missing her. We can’t visit her tomorrow because the current FMCO (Lockdown). I’ve made her Rose scented beeswax candle for her. Will have to wait until the lockdown is lifted till we could go visit her. Mom, we didn’t forget your birthday. I hope that you know that.

Mom grew up poor in Ipoh. She was the 5th child to my grandparents, She was the youngest and the cheekiest on top of things as she got my grandfather wrapped around her finger. She was the only one who was sent to an English Convent for her school education. I remember Mom telling me that after her dad passed when she was 12yrs old, she started working part-time after school hours to give money to her mother. She worked as a seamstress and also tutored. Prior to her dad passing away, the family ran a canteen business at the army camp. She even had a pet pig at one point in time.

Despite her circumstances, Mom was an extrovert that loved helping people. She was also very active in sports and represented her school in Volley Ball. Mom was well known as being a social butterfly. I’m pretty sure I got that trade from her. The ability to make friends just instantly. My Mom was always surrounded by her group of girlfriends that she kept in touch all these years. People are naturally drawn by my Mom’s energy. She’s always been very bubbly and her smile is infectious.

Before Mom met dad when she was 18. She was working at a car battery shop and dad saw her walking past daily during lunch break as at that time, dad was a site supervisor and he was high up and saw her. My dad then decided to ask around to find out who Mom was. Eventually, he learned where she worked and he decided to write her a letter. That was how my Mom and dad met and the rest was history.

My Mom always had a huge heart when it came to people and she would never think twice in helping out those in need, I guess she developed this compassion for people because she had nothing growing up. That’s another reason why she taught me to be charitable since I was young and that we should share. Friends and neighbours and family nevertheless loved Mom because she was very friendly and she would always be there for you. Mom was never selfish but always giving. She never demanded for anything but, dad pampered her because she deserved everything in the world.

Dad took good care of Mom from the day he met her until her last breath. He made her quit her job to start a family with him and supported her financially. My dad definitely is 1 in a million. Also, when Mom was bedridden during her last 6 months on earth, dad did everything to look after her. He fed her, changed her diapers and cleaned her while he slept on the floor beside her. It made Mom very sad but if that’s not proof that true love exists, what is? Will I ever be lucky to find love like that?

XoXo, VA

Thinking of Getting An Ink? Read This First…

If you’re reading this, this can only mean that you’re either thinking of getting a tattoo or looking for some ink ideas to add to your current collection. For the Ink Virgins, getting a tattoo is like tying the knot (getting married) or getting a pet. It’s a lifetime commitment that you need to be sure of. Of course these days, you can get laser removal if you regret your decision but it’s going to hurt way more than getting the ink done and it’s also going to cost way more and many sessions to get it all off.

Also, after deciding on what design to get, you need to make sure you do proper research about the meaning, the background and also if you’re getting it done in a foreign language, make sure it means what you think it does. Many people make the mistake of getting kanji (Japanese characters) thinking it’s supposed to say a certain something but it end up saying something else. You wouldn’t want your tattoo to say Fat Pig when you wanted it to say Courage right? LOL.

So, you’ve found a design you really like and you’re ready to commit to it. You need to do your research next on the tattoo artist that you’d like to visit to help you bring your vision of the piece to live on your skin. Take note that an experienced, talented tattoo artist will not come cheap. Afterall, they are putting art on your skin that will last a lifetime. To be very honest, when I was in College, I had limited budget and I made some bad choices when it came to my inks. Don’t get me wrong, I never got a tattoo drunk or put an ex’s name on me. My regret was I had cheap tattoos done that didn’t turn out the way I wanted them to look on my skin and because of that, when I finally was earning better money and got to know more tattoo artists, I got coverups. Therefore, save up for the tattoo you want. πŸ˜€

What’s a coverup? Well, it’s when a tattoo artist covers your current tattoo with a whole new piece of art. A good tattoo artist will be able to completely cover the old tattoo to a point that you can’t make out what was previously there. So, that’s the second option besides getting laser tattoo removal.

  1. What should you do before going in for your tattoo appointment? Make sure you shower. Afterall, if your tattoo piece is a huge one, you might be seated there for hours with your tattoo artist. Who wants to be seated next to someone smelly right? A happy tattoo artist will be able to give you the best tattoo. Happy Tattoo Artist = Nice Tattoo = Happy Client. πŸ˜€
  2. Second thing to do is, make sure you eat something before your appointment. I’ve heard of people fainting from getting a tattoo.
  3. Don’t drink alcohol the night before or just right before getting a tattoo. You need to sit still during the whole process. It thins your blood and will make you bleed alot.
  4. No sun tanning as well. A sun burned skin is not going to be fun to be tattooed and the artist might reject tattooing you.
  5. No drugs. You shouldn’t be taking any meds or drugs before a tattoo appointment. I’ve heard horror stories from a tattoo artist about how he/she had to ink an intoxicated person.

How Does Getting A Tattoo Feel

For me it feels like you’re being scratch with a needle. I have pretty high pain tolerance so it might feel different for you. Plus, the thinner the skin is and is close to bone and nerves, it’ll hurt more compared to in spots where there isn’t much nerves. Btw, more needles, more pain. Ouch!! There’s more needles for bigger pieces and colouring in areas. For me, it was more painful when I got my wrist tattoo compared to getting my back tattoo for instance.

Turbine + Wild Lily on my wrist. I got this done in 2015.

Tattoo Steps and What To Expect

  1. The area will be shaved and sanitized to prep the area where the tattoo will go.
  2. The design of the tattoo will be stenciled onto the spot where the tattoo will be. At this stage, if you’re not happy with the placement, the tattoo artist will clean it and re-place the stencil until you and the artist is happy.
  3. You will then either sit down or lie down in a position where it should be comfortable for you and the tattoo artist to work on you.
  4. This is the best part, the fun part when the needle touches the skin.
  5. The tattoo artist will wipe off excess ink or blood as she/he inks you.
  6. When the tattoo is completed, the tattoo piece will be wrapped up to prevent it from getting infected. You should remove the wrap after an hour or so and wash your new ink gently with cool clean water.
ApohApoh working on my back piece.
My complete back piece

If you’re interested in getting a unique and cool piece done by Apoh, you can check her work out at: http://www.instagram.com/apohapoh and she can be contacted at heyapoh@gmail.com πŸ™‚

Your tattoo will take about 4 weeks to 6 weeks to heal completely. During the first 1-2 weeks, it will start to scab and peel and it’s going to be super itchy when it’s healing. Do not pull or scratch it at any cost. You should also avoid wearing tight clothing during the healing period. No swimming or sun tanning as well. This will cause the tattoo to get infected or fade in colour as well. You should also avoid very hot showers the first week atleast. Dab dry your tattoo with a clean paper towel after each shower and apply the aftercare cream that your tattoo artist recommends.

Also, another thing to note, tattoo is very addictive. That explains why I have so many pieces. I also have a half sleeve. πŸ˜› I feel tattoo is way to express your individuality. Btw, all my ink have special meanings to me.

XoXo, VAS

Birthday Celebration Twenty Twenty…

It was my Birthday yesterday. I would like to thank all my friends for the Birthday Wishes on Instagram, Whatsapp Msg, FB Stories, FB Wall and FB Messenger these oast 2 days. Hubs got me a really thoughtful gift this year. A Nintendo Switch Lite Limited Edition + extras. Animal Crossing is all the rage now and high chances, I’ll also get WRC 8. He wants us to go on dates in the game. How sweet is he? ❀ I love him so much.

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As we all know in 2020, the Pandemic has changed alot of things including how we can and can not interact with each other. To be honest, I never really celebrated my Birthday since my 21st and maybe 2 years ago when I had a small BBQ + French Bulldog house party with some close friends + family. I did the BBQ-ing that night and loved it. I like playing with fire. Hehehehehe… It’s just that when I’m hosting, I make sure people are having a good time.

Anyway, this year of course I stayed home with the 2 Furkids. I ordered lunch + dinner and a small tub of ice cream as my Birthday Cake. I really miss eating cake. I miss being surrounded by family + friends. This year is a really lonely year for me. It really makes me wish that I could turn back time even more. The norm for my Birthday every year is to go for a nice meal with my parents. Btw, my parents went back to their Vacation/Retirement House as Mom’s long overdue for her regular check up with her Oncologist.

In all honesty, watching how the world has changed over the past few months truly scares me. Seeing people losing their loved ones, organizations and businesses closing down for good, people losing their jobs, some having to take pay-cuts and so much more. I don’t even know when we’ll be allowed to travel again due to the travel bans. This impacts me very hard because as some of you may know, Hubby and I are in a LDR (Long Distance Relationship). At this point, we haven’t seen each other since 5th of July 2019. In just about 2+ months time, it’ll be a year since we last hugged each other. On the bright side is, we managed to tie the knot last year as many couples that got engaged recently or last year have to now postponed their weddings that was planned for this year. I really miss him so much and I also can’t help but worry about him constantly as US numbers are increasing rapidly.

My Birthday wish for this year is that the world will recover from this soon and that it teaches everyone to not sweat the little things and cherish those around them as we are not promised tomorrow. I want to hug my Hubby so badly.

XoXo, VAS