Failure..

Why do we sometimes feel like we’ve failed? I think everyone experiences feeling like a failure from time to time or at least once in their lifetime. We feel like we’ve failed when we set goals for ourselves and we miss the mark. Be it by a lil or a lot. It can be at anything and at anytime. I think we feel it when we stop and ponder about things or where we are in our lives.

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On the other hand, if we don’t set any goals or expectations, we wouldn’t be able to fail right? That being said, setting goals in life is important as it plays a huge part in giving us the push that we need and something to look forward to, to achieve. Without something to look forward to, we will eventually lose our purpose and ourselves. Life would be mundane, dull and that’s when most people give up trying.

But, why is it that when a marriage fails, you can’t help but feel like a failure? For me, I had thoughts that I failed when my marriage ended months ago. I felt that way because I wanted to be married once in my lifetime and I wanted to make things work no matter how hard or difficult it may have turned out. I was very patient when things were bad. I didn’t budge or even thought of leaving, not even once. That being said when he threw the towel in, it hurt and it made me feel that whatever I’ve done or haven’t done, well it felt that it just wasn’t enough. Weeks after we ended, I stopped blaming myself and came to the conclusion that we just weren’t right for each other despite how much we once loved each other. We made sacrifices for each other so that can only meant we did truly love one another right?

I think we should stop feeling like failures when things don’t work out the way we envision them because things doesn’t go as plan most of the time anyway. We need to learn to accept things as they come. Learn to be alright with things at the end of the day. So, maybe the key is to have acceptance. Accept that things can go south sometimes and that it will be alright nevertheless. Maybe even take it as a blessing because if something was meant for you, it would workout in it’s own way. We need to learn to be less tough on ourselves from time to time as the world and expectations we set can sometimes get overwhelming.

XoXo, VA

Thank You…

Dear You,

I hope that you are doing well wherever you may be now. I hope that you’re smiling and laughing because that’s how I want to remember you. Despite what you say, I always thought that you had a charming smile and I was addicted to your laughter as it was a form of assurance that I was doing something right. I’ve always wished that you could see you from my perspective and eyes because you were perfect to me. You were my perfect imperfection.

I will forever be grateful for the time and moments that we shared together. When you loved, I felt it as it made me feel warm and safe when you were by my side. I remember how it felt like to see my phone screen lights up and I see your name appear, it always made my day. The excitement was a piece of bliss to me. Also, everything I did I thought about you and us and every decision was made to include you. That was how important you were in my life.

The sacrifices you made for me, for us meant the world to me. Maybe I didn’t get to tell you enough. Thank you for being you. I’m sorry for failing you or hurting you in any possible way. Please know that it was the last thing I wanted to do.

XoXo, VA

Exciting News!!

Welcome to The Vault!! What is The Vault? It’s the latest Podcast Show that talks about everything under the sun. Nothing is left uncovered. We answer questions that you never thought about and we share our knowledge from our many exciting experiences. My Co-Host, Terry is an extreme sports enthusiast whom loves finance and the global markets which is super intelligent and he has a really good voice. Some says, soothing too.

It was Terry’s idea that we do a Podcast together after his bestie, Eveline decided that they do a Podcast together along with Annie. It’s called Spill The T.E.A. The Vault is our baby together. Hence, it’s going to be exciting and fun because of the energy levels we both bring to the table. We’re planning to go Live at Malaysia 10pm, Saturday Night which will be New York 10am, Saturday Morning. The Vault will be aired Live.

• New York Time Offset: UTC -4
• Malaysia Time Offset: UTC ++08

Come and join us on this new adventure. We will also be accepting calls during the Podcast too. Looking forward to hear from our listeners of course. It will be on YouTube, Instagram, Spotify, Facebook Live and Apple Podcasts. (This will be updated accordingly)

XoXo, VA

Being Alone During The Pandemic…

It can get pretty lonely for the most of us solo people during this pandemic. I think it’s been quite depressing for the most of us that can’t sit quietly for long periods of time. I have to admit that I miss going out and spending time with friends over meals or drinks. Just going out catching up and all. The extrovert in me is suffering. The WFH (Working From Home) part isn’t an issue for me as I’m used to SOHO environment since early 2017.

It’s driving me crazy now because the gym and pool is closed. Well, to be exact it’s been close since early May 2021. I miss working out at the gym. It gave me solitude from the craziness. What have you been doing to keep you sane when you’re stuck at home?

Do you think being solo during this time makes you stronger or makes you feel extra lonely as it makes you wish that you were in lockdown with someone? For me, I’m getting used to being alone as I’ve been living alone since early 2019. I still can’t imagine how I’ve survived this long living alone. LOL. Adulting solo. 😛 I think I may have said this before, my plan was always to be living with a partner. But, living alone thus far has been pretty awesome too. I have 2 furkids to keep me company so maybe I’m not completely alone.

XoXo, VA