My Experience as A Head Hunter…

I woke up at 6.45am Monday to Friday excited to get ready for work. I would be planning what I would be doing once I get into the office about 7.50am before everyone else. Official working hours was 8.30am till 6pm.


I would unlock the office doors and turn on the lights and then switch on my PC while I eat my breakfast in front of my work station while replying to emails or following up on a phone call with a potential candidate. That being said, I would typically leave the office at around 6pm but I’d still be making phone calls to my candidates via my car bluetooth while I drove and I would also get interrupted during my diners following up with clients about a candidate’s interview or having a discussion with them.


I remember it came to a point where my client had to tell me, “It’s Friday evening Valerie, you should be out enjoying the weekend, we can continue on Monday…” That being said, I worked through festivities and my off days. I had 21 Annual Leave days but, because I was very passionate about my role in the company, I work almost every single day and sometimes only stopping to rest at 12.30 – 1am to start the process again the following day.
I single handily brought in 11 news clients to the business within my first 5 months of working there, hence from being hired as a Senior Recruitment Consultant working under a Manager with another Consultant backing him up, my Country Manager (CM) decided to have a meeting with me and then removed me from reporting to the Manager but, instead I reported directly to the CM and managed my own portfolios.


A few months later, our CM had to leave the country as his mother was very ill in the UK. A new Regional Country Director then took over, she was very strict and was a no nonsense leader. I liked her style to be honest but, I know that many in the office were intimidated and feared her. She heard alot about me and I guess from her observation of my work, she decided to have a 1 to 1 meeting with me. When she found out that I was managing 49 roles all by myself, she asked me whether I needed an assistant, I told her I’m okay and that I was capable of handing the fulfilment of the roles by myself while my ex Manager had 2 roles 2 fill and he was still using the assistant that he hired the same time I joined his team.


Because the business plan was to expand the team sizes and headcount in the KL office, she decided to hire a Regional Trainer. She had countless interviews with different Trainers throughout 2 months plus but, she wasn’t happy with a single one. One fine day, she decided to speak to me and she shared the Job Description (JD) with me and told me to study it as she noticed that I’ve been helping my colleagues. I went home and I consulted my then BF and I decided to give it a shot. We then set up an interview date and time. After the interview with her, I had to interview with the Head of Training in the UK which I did. She then gave me a final interview and the role was mine. She then wrote an official email announcement to inform the whole company about my new promotion. I then was task to inform my clients that I won’t be able to handle their portfolios anymore moving forward. Boy were they disappointed as the Directors and Hiring Managers in the companies were very happy working with me.


I then was sent to the UK for 2 weeks to be trained to become a Trainer. After my trip to the UK offices- London, South Hampton & Bromley I came back and started training on the fly. As the company was expanding, we hired many freshies/newbies to the field. I gave them Induction Training, SOP Tech Training, 101 Recruitment Trainings and so much more. I enjoyed being a Trainer as I love sharing my knowledge and I was the go to person in the office whenever a Team Manager or Colleague needed help with something related to Recruitment. I also developed customize training materials to help individuals understand subject matters better. I worked closely with our Regional Country Manager and also Team Managers to determine who should stay and who gets the boot based on their performance in the company.

I conducted training for the KL, Singapore & China offices. I got the best treatment when I went to the Beijing, China office. The Chinese really have respect for their teachers hence they gave me a very warm welcome and it was a really good experience training the colleagues there. I even became really good friends with them.


My role was made redundant in early 2017 when Brexit was announced a few months prior. I was expecting it as my other training colleague’s role was affected a few months before mine. So, I started preparing my exit plan a few months prior. I started reaching out to my old Clients to engage them for roles that I could help with. Boy, were they glad and happy to hear from me. The Training role was made redundant when top management decided to freeze hiring rapidly when Brexit was announced and therefore, they didn’t need Trainers to conduct training for the new intake. That being said, my Regional Country Manager offered me my previous Recruitment role but because of the company dynamics and all, I decided to not accept the offer. That’s when my new chapter started, I set up my own company as I was capable enough to do A-Z of Recruitment by myself.

XoXo, VAS

Birthday Celebration Twenty Twenty…

It was my Birthday yesterday. I would like to thank all my friends for the Birthday Wishes on Instagram, Whatsapp Msg, FB Stories, FB Wall and FB Messenger these oast 2 days. Hubs got me a really thoughtful gift this year. A Nintendo Switch Lite Limited Edition + extras. Animal Crossing is all the rage now and high chances, I’ll also get WRC 8. He wants us to go on dates in the game. How sweet is he? ❤ I love him so much.

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As we all know in 2020, the Pandemic has changed alot of things including how we can and can not interact with each other. To be honest, I never really celebrated my Birthday since my 21st and maybe 2 years ago when I had a small BBQ + French Bulldog house party with some close friends + family. I did the BBQ-ing that night and loved it. I like playing with fire. Hehehehehe… It’s just that when I’m hosting, I make sure people are having a good time.

Anyway, this year of course I stayed home with the 2 Furkids. I ordered lunch + dinner and a small tub of ice cream as my Birthday Cake. I really miss eating cake. I miss being surrounded by family + friends. This year is a really lonely year for me. It really makes me wish that I could turn back time even more. The norm for my Birthday every year is to go for a nice meal with my parents. Btw, my parents went back to their Vacation/Retirement House as Mom’s long overdue for her regular check up with her Oncologist.

In all honesty, watching how the world has changed over the past few months truly scares me. Seeing people losing their loved ones, organizations and businesses closing down for good, people losing their jobs, some having to take pay-cuts and so much more. I don’t even know when we’ll be allowed to travel again due to the travel bans. This impacts me very hard because as some of you may know, Hubby and I are in a LDR (Long Distance Relationship). At this point, we haven’t seen each other since 5th of July 2019. In just about 2+ months time, it’ll be a year since we last hugged each other. On the bright side is, we managed to tie the knot last year as many couples that got engaged recently or last year have to now postponed their weddings that was planned for this year. I really miss him so much and I also can’t help but worry about him constantly as US numbers are increasing rapidly.

My Birthday wish for this year is that the world will recover from this soon and that it teaches everyone to not sweat the little things and cherish those around them as we are not promised tomorrow. I want to hug my Hubby so badly.

XoXo, VAS

Two Zero One Nine…

How was 2019 for you? I hope that it was somewhat a good one. 🙂 Mine started off with closing a 3.5yrs chapter. Trust me; it took alot of contemplating, sleepless nights and buckets of tears to finally bid goodbye to the familiarity that was once so dear and comforting but, it was for the right reasons esp. when we didn’t see the same future anymore.

I learned to smile again thanks to my now, Hubby that stepped up his game. He showed me that I shouldn’t feel alone and that someone who truly cares, would be able to sense when you’re going through a tough time and would willingly listen to your inner thoughts and issues and try their best to help because they just want to see you happy and nothing less. They’ll make sacrifices because you’re worth it. I finally found someone who treated me the way that I’ve always treated my other halves. True love is not lost but it exists when you love unconditionally. ❤

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This year, we got engaged and months later, we got married. It may seem fast but it felt right to us and that’s what matters the most. ❤ We experienced so many new things together, planning a ROM and being in a LDR Marriage. It definitely is a huge challenge  being 9000++ miles apart to be honest and 12/13hrs time difference. That being said, we communicate alot on a daily basis. Skype Calls, Whatsapp Calls + Messages, Instagram, FB and also iMessaging.

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We’re definitely looking forward to picking each other up from the airport again. The excitement level is always at it’s upmost peak when it’s just days, hours and then minutes to seeing each other.

Last year in February 2018, I chopped my long hair short to donate it to Locks of Hope, in the hope of helping someone and also I felt like it was time to change up my hair as I’ve had medium to long hair for easily 20 years at that point. Having short hair gave me alot of mixed feelings tbh. I liked how much less shampoo I had to use, I noticed that I hardly found my hair on the floor and it also took pretty fast to dry just with a towel but on the other side of things, I had to get a cut, a shave, a trim almost every 2-3 weeks once to either maintain the style or change it up and Boy!! did I go through a phase of wild, crazy shave haircuts as well. Why not right? Since it’s already that short to begin with and hair grows afterall. I received many compliments from friends and hairstylists saying that the new look matches my personality and that I pulled it off well. I honestly, enjoyed having short hair except that besides using hair products like Wax, Pomade and all that to style it, there wasn’t much versatility so the other thing that I did alot to make it more feminine when I wore dresses was to put on a nice hairband. I also dyed it in Blonde, Grey/Silver, Pink and Purple earlier this year but when I got engaged, I realized that I didn’t want to take our Pre-Wedding photos having rainbow hair and opted for a more natural hair colour so I visited my favourite Colourist Expert/DJ, Eddy Mino from AVEDA to get my hair coloured for our Pre-Wedding Photoshoot and for the ROM. Btw, I love AVEDA products as it’s really very natural and has less chemicals compared to the many other brands out there. 🙂 From getting my hair and makeup done for the Pre-Wedding Photoshoot and also ROM, I realized that I need to grow back my hair in order to be able to have the versatility to style for our Wedding and ontop of hating the number of hairpins and hairspray that was needed to hold my hair in place. It was painful to remove btw.

Work on the other hand started off really bad this year as a huge international consultancy firm played dirty and shortchanged my work with them and not pay me on top of things. If I had to be honest about it, it made me really mad as they were not handling things professionally and have left a bitter taste in my mouth based on this experience. I would only expect this kind of unprofessional-ism from a small company but not at their level. Because of that, I’ve blacklisted them and will never ever have anything good to say about the organization and I’m leaving it up to Karma. I slowed down work to focus on planning the ROM earlier this year as well and spent some quality time with my then Fiance’ and also my parents whenever possible.

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Mom’s health has been a roller-coaster ride over the past 4 years and this year, she had to go for more Chemo + Radiotherapy and in August she had an accident in the bathroom and it fractured/dislocated her elbow and needed emergency surgery to correct it. Months have past and they’ve finally removed the metal rods in her elbow but she’s still recovering from it. It has been tough seeing her struggle and go through the different treatments over the years but we’re not giving up as the most important thing is, she’s still able to enjoy life and our company.

What will 2020 have in store for us, for me? I know that I’m definitely looking forward to my travels as I’ve successfully gotten my American Travel Visa. It was definitely an intimidating and stressful experience but it’s the first step to a whole new chapter and experience. Fingers and toes are also crossed that our Alien Relative Petition (I-130) application goes through smoothly so that we can take the next steps. Also, I’m planning to up my workout regime and stay active. Definitely going to catch up with friends for lots of yummy food too. 🙂

I would like to end this blog post by wishing everyone, “Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!!” 😀

XoXo, VAS

Our ROM…

Getting married is definitely something beautiful and it’s definitely the next level up in being a committed couple. JR and I didn’t have a long engagement like other couples typically would which ranges from a year or more before their big wedding day. It’s because for us, the process wasn’t straight forward and easy due to our different nationalities mainly. The process for our Civil Marriage was definitely different and was abit of a challenge because my Fiance’ is an American citizen and I’m a Malaysian.

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That being said, he have to be in Malaysia for atleast 7 days before we can apply for our Civil Marriage Registration. Upon submitting the application form, we would have to wait for 21 days before we are given a date for us to register our marriage in Malaysia. Sounds simple right? Actually, there’s more to it. Firstly, because Malaysia’s National language is Bahasa Malaysia/Bahasa Melayu (BM), the application form and most government documents are in BM. Therefore, we needed a certified translator to translate the application form for us so that JR could understand it.

Also, he needed to get a Single Status Affidavit/Single Status Letter to prove that he’s an eligible bachelor that can be married. He brought one from the US but upon checking the document at the National Registrar of Marriage’s Office here in Putrajaya, Malaysia, the Admin lady disapproved it and showed us an example of the version that they require. To get that particular version of Single Status Affidavit, we had to make an appointment with the American Embassy here in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia to get it. The particular Single Status Affidavit prepared and provided by the American Embassy then has to be Notarized by the Ministry of Foreign Affairs here in Malaysia before we can fully fill up the Civil Marriage Application Form to then be submitted to the National Registrar of Marriage’s Office here in Putrajaya, Kuala Lumpur and wait for the 21 days. The 21 days is for family or friends or anyone to object to the union of the 2 individuals. We wanted to get married in June but sadly the dates were fully booked up so we settled for 2nd of July 2019 instead. Btw, we submitted our documents and Civil Marriage Application Form on the 6th of May 2019. Our photos were then displayed on the Marriage Bulletin Board for 21 days.

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Alex Tan of Alextan Artworks spend 1/2 a day shooting our Pre-Wedding Photoshoot on the 11th of May 2019. A day before the shoot, we visited the studio and discussed about our outfits and theme of the shoot. The team was definitely patient and very helpful from the start. We enjoy our time with them and we love the selection of wedding gowns and also suits. I actually know Alex for years prior to him being an award winning photographer and he’s still the same delightful friend I know back in the day. On the day of the shoot, Elynn did my hair and makeup the way I wanted it. She managed to make my short hair look long in an updo. 🙂

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I highly recommend Alex Tan and his team for your photoshoot and videography needs. He can be contacted at: Alex Tan Artworks Do checkout his portfolio. You will be impressed. 🙂

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Also, for Bridal Makeup I would recommend Elynn Bridal Makeup as she did my hair and makeup during the photoshoot.

On our ROM, I got Kenny Yee from Makeup Miracle to do my makeup and he was definitely very professional, friendly and full of tips and he did a spectacular job on my hair and makeup and made me feel very beautiful on my special day. The main challenge the makeup artiste had with me was definitely my short pixie haircut during that time but they both delivered what I wanted which truly made me very happy.

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Check out Kenny Yee’s magic at Kenny Yee Bridal Makeup He’s amazing!! ❤

We got my Bridal Bouquet from LavieFlo. They are everlasting flowers that can be personalized and they smell soooooooooooooooooo good. 🙂

I think this post is definitely long so here’s the pics and video to enjoy instead. 😀

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I would like to thank everyone who made our special day awesome. ❤

XoXo, VAS