Failure..

Why do we sometimes feel like we’ve failed? I think everyone experiences feeling like a failure from time to time or at least once in their lifetime. We feel like we’ve failed when we set goals for ourselves and we miss the mark. Be it by a lil or a lot. It can be at anything and at anytime. I think we feel it when we stop and ponder about things or where we are in our lives.

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On the other hand, if we don’t set any goals or expectations, we wouldn’t be able to fail right? That being said, setting goals in life is important as it plays a huge part in giving us the push that we need and something to look forward to, to achieve. Without something to look forward to, we will eventually lose our purpose and ourselves. Life would be mundane, dull and that’s when most people give up trying.

But, why is it that when a marriage fails, you can’t help but feel like a failure? For me, I had thoughts that I failed when my marriage ended months ago. I felt that way because I wanted to be married once in my lifetime and I wanted to make things work no matter how hard or difficult it may have turned out. I was very patient when things were bad. I didn’t budge or even thought of leaving, not even once. That being said when he threw the towel in, it hurt and it made me feel that whatever I’ve done or haven’t done, well it felt that it just wasn’t enough. Weeks after we ended, I stopped blaming myself and came to the conclusion that we just weren’t right for each other despite how much we once loved each other. We made sacrifices for each other so that can only meant we did truly love one another right?

I think we should stop feeling like failures when things don’t work out the way we envision them because things doesn’t go as plan most of the time anyway. We need to learn to accept things as they come. Learn to be alright with things at the end of the day. So, maybe the key is to have acceptance. Accept that things can go south sometimes and that it will be alright nevertheless. Maybe even take it as a blessing because if something was meant for you, it would workout in it’s own way. We need to learn to be less tough on ourselves from time to time as the world and expectations we set can sometimes get overwhelming.

XoXo, VA

Our ROM…

Getting married is definitely something beautiful and it’s definitely the next level up in being a committed couple. JR and I didn’t have a long engagement like other couples typically would which ranges from a year or more before their big wedding day. It’s because for us, the process wasn’t straight forward and easy due to our different nationalities mainly. The process for our Civil Marriage was definitely different and was abit of a challenge because my Fiance’ is an American citizen and I’m a Malaysian.

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That being said, he have to be in Malaysia for atleast 7 days before we can apply for our Civil Marriage Registration. Upon submitting the application form, we would have to wait for 21 days before we are given a date for us to register our marriage in Malaysia. Sounds simple right? Actually, there’s more to it. Firstly, because Malaysia’s National language is Bahasa Malaysia/Bahasa Melayu (BM), the application form and most government documents are in BM. Therefore, we needed a certified translator to translate the application form for us so that JR could understand it.

Also, he needed to get a Single Status Affidavit/Single Status Letter to prove that he’s an eligible bachelor that can be married. He brought one from the US but upon checking the document at the National Registrar of Marriage’s Office here in Putrajaya, Malaysia, the Admin lady disapproved it and showed us an example of the version that they require. To get that particular version of Single Status Affidavit, we had to make an appointment with the American Embassy here in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia to get it. The particular Single Status Affidavit prepared and provided by the American Embassy then has to be Notarized by the Ministry of Foreign Affairs here in Malaysia before we can fully fill up the Civil Marriage Application Form to then be submitted to the National Registrar of Marriage’s Office here in Putrajaya, Kuala Lumpur and wait for the 21 days. The 21 days is for family or friends or anyone to object to the union of the 2 individuals. We wanted to get married in June but sadly the dates were fully booked up so we settled for 2nd of July 2019 instead. Btw, we submitted our documents and Civil Marriage Application Form on the 6th of May 2019. Our photos were then displayed on the Marriage Bulletin Board for 21 days.

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Alex Tan of Alextan Artworks spend 1/2 a day shooting our Pre-Wedding Photoshoot on the 11th of May 2019. A day before the shoot, we visited the studio and discussed about our outfits and theme of the shoot. The team was definitely patient and very helpful from the start. We enjoy our time with them and we love the selection of wedding gowns and also suits. I actually know Alex for years prior to him being an award winning photographer and he’s still the same delightful friend I know back in the day. On the day of the shoot, Elynn did my hair and makeup the way I wanted it. She managed to make my short hair look long in an updo. 🙂

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I highly recommend Alex Tan and his team for your photoshoot and videography needs. He can be contacted at: Alex Tan Artworks Do checkout his portfolio. You will be impressed. 🙂

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Also, for Bridal Makeup I would recommend Elynn Bridal Makeup as she did my hair and makeup during the photoshoot.

On our ROM, I got Kenny Yee from Makeup Miracle to do my makeup and he was definitely very professional, friendly and full of tips and he did a spectacular job on my hair and makeup and made me feel very beautiful on my special day. The main challenge the makeup artiste had with me was definitely my short pixie haircut during that time but they both delivered what I wanted which truly made me very happy.

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Check out Kenny Yee’s magic at Kenny Yee Bridal Makeup He’s amazing!! ❤

We got my Bridal Bouquet from LavieFlo. They are everlasting flowers that can be personalized and they smell soooooooooooooooooo good. 🙂

I think this post is definitely long so here’s the pics and video to enjoy instead. 😀

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I would like to thank everyone who made our special day awesome. ❤

XoXo, VAS

 

Our Wedding, The Wedding Bands…

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Love is unique, love has the capacity to change a person in more ways than one, love is powerful, love is special and love can do so much more. We all show love in different ways according to our own love language but, marriage is one way to show committal love. Marriage is a sacred bonding journey that 2 individuals decide to embark on together through the tough times and share the good ones along the way. To symbolize our love for each other in marriage, JR and I decided to get our Wedding Bands from Cartier as we love that the Love Rings are thick and solid but, it’s also classy and simple. Initially, I was supposed to go for the thinner paved diamond ring and he was supposed to go with the simple band with no diamonds but, since we’ll be wearing the rings for many years to come, we changed our minds and went for the thicker paved diamonds and also for his band to have 3 diamonds and we love our wedding bands so much. He was so excited that he wanted to wear his band before our ROM but, I did not allow him to until our ROM on the 2nd of July 2019. ;P

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Tadaa!! Our Wedding Bands ❤

For more details and jewelry from Cartier, details can be found on their webpage, Cartier, USA or visit their 2 outlets here in Malaysia which are at: Pavilion, Kuala Lumpur, Lot.2.12.00 & 3.14.00, Level 2 & 3. Lot 168, Jalan Bukit Bintang. 55100, Kuala Lumpur,  Malaysia.

and Suria KLCC, G31 GF, Jalan Ampang, 50088, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. 

XoXo, VAS